Archive | April 2012

Grand Finale


On Friday, April 13, 2012, twelve o’clock in the afternoon at The Greater Piney Grove Baptist Church, my Mother Rev. Martha Virginia Alexander attended her final church service on this side of glory. Mom was surrounded by more love than most people will ever know. When we pulled up to the church we were in “awe” of all the people that had shown up for her celebration. People from the old neighborhood, co-workers, friends, and clergy were all there. The support shown for Mom spoke volumes of the kind of person she was and the support shown towards her family shows how much we’re loved. Its because of her that people loved her family. Her presence flowed through the church as if she were sitting right there. And she WAS there, she had the best seat in the house.

Her life was celebrated through worship, praise, song and through the Word of God.
People stood and spoke of Mom’s spirit. One of the attendants from the funeral home named Michael (Donald Trimble) said that Mom was a “Cool Christian”. Her divinity teacher Dr. Woods spoke of the kind of student she was who often taught the class. Others spoke of her love for them and the love she had for her children. Her keen fashion sense and leadership qualities set the tone for women preachers at the church.

The service was truly a family affair. Everyone played a part in making sure Mom’s Grand Finale was done in a fashion that represented the kind of Woman, Mother, Friend, Sister, Niece, and DIVA that she was. Pastor Davis, who taught me when I was a little girl prayed the sweetest prayer. Latrese (sister) read from the old testament Psalms 103:1-5 & 11-22 and if you closed your eyes and listened carefully you would have sworn it was my Mother’s voice. Pastor Jewel Brown, Jr. (cousin) read from the new testament. My brother Calvin spoke of the people that cared for her while she was in hospice and how Mom shaped him into the man that he is. My youngest niece Jasmine (niece) recited a poem she wrote, “I’ll Miss You”. Carrie (niece) stood so proud and boldly and told the congregation “Don’t mind the stories or rumors you’ve heard about my Gran. Don’t worry about what she had. Gran was NOT sick… She had a CONDITION… A CONDITION of FAITH. A condition that put her in a position to look towards the hills.” Our Pastor, Dr. William E. Flipppin, Sr eulogized Mom with the sermon “Martha, Martha” from Luke 10:36 and John 11.

Everything was bitter sweet. While Mom is no longer suffering and in a place that we all hope to be when our time comes, we still feel like we needed and wanted her here. We didn’t want Mom to suffer so slowly we are letting go, only holding on to everything that she taught us. Holding on to the love that we know she had for us.

We will mourn our Mother, Grandmother, Sister, Niece, Aunt and Dear Friend for years to come. Praying that God will give us the peace that she had when she took her final breath.

{click on the link below to watch a video tribute I did for my Mom entitled “Forever Truly Blessed”}

Gratitude fills our hearts when we think of all the love that we have received and we don’t take it lightly.

Thank you, all so much.

This entry was posted on April 8, 2012. 1 Comment

The Transition

April 07, 2012 My Mother Rev. Martha V. Alexander transitioned from her earthly home to her heavenly home. While it doesn’t seem real and hurts so much right now. I have to continue to tell myself that she’s in a better place and no longer suffering. Mom made peace with everything a while ago and her undying faith carried her to the highest of high places. She fought a good fight and she lived a good life. Her legacy are her children, grandchildren and great grandchildren and everything that she ever taught.

Mom wasn’t ours, she belonged to God first and while we loved her so much, God loved her more. She’s seen the light and God has shown her His face. I can’t imagine how she was greeted when she reached the heavenly gates. When she saw her Mother, Father and siblings. I know He welcomed her in His arms and said “Well done… Well done thy good and FAITHFUL servant.” She’s celebrating The Resurrection of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ in heaven on this Easter Sunday (oh God…) She’s experiencing God’s love in person. (my, my)

Mom loved her children and she wanted to be here with us but her work here and with us was completed. Everything that she taught us, everything that she has shown us will help us get through this. Lord, please take care of my Mother. Give us the peace and comfort to be okay without her even though her spirit will always be with us.

This entry was posted on April 8, 2012. 1 Comment

What It Means To Serve

Throughout this journey with Mom, she’s come in contact with some amazing people. One lady in particular named April at Sacred Journey has been taking such good care of my Mom while she’s been here. April climbed into bed with Mom and rubbed her head and talked to her. “Thank you for coming into my life. You’ve blessed me.” she said. I sat on the other side of the bed and started to cry. It’s one thing to have a “job”, it’s another to be of “service”. April has shown compassion and love towards Mom and we are forever grateful.

We can never say “Thank You” enough to all the people who have had a hand in Mom’s care. You’ve been a blessing to our family by treating Mom as if she were your own.

This entry was posted on April 7, 2012. 1 Comment