Today is moms 73rd birthday! We thank God for her not just today but everyday.
She puts the word “soul” in “solider” as my niece Carrie would say! 73 years of God’s grace and mercy!
I value my relationship with my mother more than anything. It is because of her that I write is blog, it is because of her, I am who I am right at this very moment. She is the best part of me. With that being said I felt compelled to explain to people why it is important to have a great relationship with your parents. I like to think that it is because of how my mom treats not only myself but my siblings as well is the reason we are caring for her now.
The Bible taught us in Ephesians 6:2 to “Honor thy mother and father…” and I have seen parents abuse this passage and think that they are entitled to be put on a pedestal because the Word says so. Well, in Colossians 3:21 it says “Fathers do no provoke your children, or they may loose heart.”
The reverse is that parents should respect their children. You can’t have a meaningful relationship without mutual respect. Parents don’t provoke your children, how you treat them now will determine how they treat you as they get older. You don’t want to push them away, especially when you need them the most. In my line of work I’ve seen children put their parents away in a nursing home only to visit them once a month for less than a hour, or children who will hire someone to take on the responsibility of caring their parents because they can’t forgive the hurt that their parents caused them as a child. It’s sad to see but it is a reality of what’s going on.
My mother’s home is a safe haven for me. It is where I know I can receive all the things that I need emotionally and spiritually. I love her for making me feel safe, loved and wanted, even if I was the “Oops, baby.” ~I’ll explain another time~
Often times seem like when you take two steps forward you get knocked three steps back.
After receiving good news last week, mom started experiencing severe pains in her left leg. My sister and niece took mom to the ER only to return home and admitted the next day after her blood pressure dropped, fainted and received no pain relief. The Drs. believe that the tumor which is located on the right side of her brain became aggravated and sent pain signals to left side of her body. Mom is home now, but she is still in pain which is being managed by medication. It makes her “High as a kite.” as she would say. It was hard for her to walk a couple of days ago because of the amount of pain she was in but we’re making some progress now. She can do little walking with help. Mom wants to be better and stronger. I believe she will be, we just have to take it one day at a time.
This is harder than anyone can imagine for all of us, especially for my sister Carol. Mom is constantly worried about her because of the high stress level of the situation. She is there everyday with mom and has taken on the roll as moms primary caregiver with the help of her daughter Carrie. While you’re reading this and praying for my mom, please also pray for my sister and niece. It’s because of them things aren’t in disarray with the family. Its very hard to care for a loved one, especially your own mother. They plan and communicate with all who are involved with the moms care. It makes it easy for the rest of us to fall into place in order to make sure that mom has everything she wants and needs. I am grateful and I know God has great things in store for them. Their sacrifices are NOT in vain. Love you Carol and Carrie!
“Lord please give Mom strength to endure. The courage to fight and the peace she deserves while YOU do YOUR work. I ask that you would also give peace and comfort to my family. In Jesus name, Amen.”
It’s amazing how the lil things make a big difference. As mom would say “I could sure use some good news today.” “Good News” came on Thursday, January 12, 2012 when Dr. Simpson, (Mom’s oncologist) told her that the tumor had shrunk. Carrie, sent me a text message about the “Good News”. It took everything in me to contain myself at work.
God hears our prayers and knows our hearts. Mom isn’t going through all this for nothing. She is a continued walking testimony. Having mustard seed faith is what is allowing mom to fight, to hold on and to continue to share the “Good News” of our Lord and Savior. While you’re going through just remember “Until God opens the next door for you… Praise Him in the hallway, even if it IS outside of a Drs. office.”
Mommy and Me day! After taking my son to school this morning, I packed up and headed to Mommy’s house. There, I was greeted with a warm smile, kiss and hug. While mom sat in her “big comfy chair” and I sat on the floor at her feet we began to chat about how she was feeling. She said “I’m trying to get better. I want to be whole again. I just don’t understand, I can’t be going through this for nothing.” As a tears fell from her eyes, I fought back my own. I placed my hand in hers and I said “Mom, you’re not broken and you are whole and you are surrounded by love. Nothing has been taken from you. You have everything right here in you and in the family that takes care of you.” she then said “I know, I am but I’m human too.”
As a child I feel that it is my duty to help take care of my mom because she took such good care of me. I can never repay her for all that she has done for me so it is a joy to give her a small portion what she’s given me, especially in times like this. Mom has always been SuperWoman to me and even now, she’s displaying her SuperWoman characteristics by getting up each day to fight this disease that has plagued her mind. Most of the time she doesn’t feel like something is wrong but KNOWING in your heart and in the back of your mind that something is indeed is wrong can cause even SuperWoman to have a moment of sadness. It is in those moments when she asks Why? Why me, Lord?”
The Bible says in Isaiah 53:5 … by His stripes we are healed. Even when she questions, she STILL believes she is healed because the Word tells us so.
A friend of mine posted this on his Facebook page some time ago and it really struck a cord with me and I just wanted to share…
Walt Disney’s movie “Lion King” is perhaps my favorite animated featured film for several reasons…
1) It’s symbolic nature as it relates to God as King,
2) It reminds me of the sacrifice a Father is willing to make for his child and lastly
3) It speaks to me in Swahili “Hakuna Matata” reminding me literally there are “no worries”. “Hakuna Matata” to you. May the Lord keep you!
Life is full of ups and downs, highs and lows. It is our strength that gets us through those tough life situations. Often times we don’t know our own strength until we are faced with having to dig beyond ourselves to use it.
Psalm 27:1 tells us…
The LORD is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? the LORD is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?
When we rely on the Lord for our strength, our everything we have nothing to fear or to worry about because He has us wrapped and protected.
Mom often feels weary and tired but I’ve seen her pull it together to go to church, doctor’s appointments, dinner with family and more. She says she doesn’t feel bad, just tired. Treatments tend to drain a lot of her energy but she will still give you a laugh and a “Good Word”. I think it makes her feel good to hear people say “Martha, you don’t even look or sound sick?” Mom, will then say “I don’t know what sick looks or sounds like.” The thing is, mom has always taken pride in how she looks. She might not feel good on the but you better believe she’s going to try her best to not show it on the outside. She gives credit to God because in her own words “I can’t do it alone.” It’s the strength that God gives her. It comes from a place where only God resides within us.
When you’re at your lowest or weakest point just remember to be faithful, prayerful and rely on the strength that God gives you.